Topic: " What's Eating Gilbert Grape " |
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By:Meg - Admin |
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| Meg 2006-10-16 19:58:56 |
1) Yeah, I always had to do jobs around the house, but nothing as full on as keeping up the repairs. For me it was more like cleaning, washing and babysitting. Most of the time I liked this responsibility, cos it meant that there was something I could do to help mum and dad. But sometimes it frustrated me, especially as my sister did nothing in comparison. 3) No never about my sis, but I can understand why Gilbert might have felt that way. He was under so much pressure to keep his family together at such a young age, and having Arnie to support certainly didn't make it any easier. For Gil, it must have sometimes felt like removing Arnie from the picture would solve his life's problems. |
| R. Cleyne 2006-10-16 19:59:01 |
1) Yes I do have jobs around, like cleaning the kitchen table when time for dinner, doing my homework, practising my trampolining, singing and guitar. I think some times it's a bit too much when I have loads of homework and my dad's saying unload the dishwasher and then Eddie starts up and my mum says clean your room, do your guitar and singing, so I feel like I'm being a bit pushed. 2) Every thing the doctor said about autistic my brother is. 3) Some times he GETS SO ANNOYING!!!! and I wish he was dead but not all the times I love my brother so much but I don't know what to do at school when the kids asked why doesn't he talk yet? |
| Ashleigh 2006-10-16 19:59:27 |
a) I am very lucky in that my brother does not have a physical disability only a mental. All I have to do is the basic household chores like cleaning my room and feeding the animals. b) No, My brother has turned out exactly like the docs said he would. I'm not sure if this is a good thing or not. c) Some days, when he is being particularly annoying, I wish he wasn't my brother but deep down I know I would not be the kind understanding person I am today if I did not have to put up with him! |
| Carmen 2006-12-27 19:58:00 |
Questions 1) Yes, I have to do my usual chores of cleaning up my room, setting the table every second day, packing/unpacking the dishwasher, taking out the recycling and garbage and things like that. Ever since my sister has become sick I have had to do all her chores, my chores, and extra stuff that mum wants me to do, like cooking, vacuuming, dusting, and other things like that. It makes me kind of mad that I have to do all of this when my sis is capable of doing her chores and helping me with the other things, but then I feel bad for thinking this because I should be helping out. 2) Yes, I was told it would take around 5 years to make my sis better but she is halfway there and it has only been a year. They have also told us a lot of other things that I can't really remember that didn't turn out the way they said. 3) Because while you love ur Sib sometimes it just gets too much and you think maybe if they weren't here..... but that is only some of the time, the rest you soldier on because you love them. I don't usually feel that way about my Sib but sometimes when it gets really bad I wonder what it would be like if they weren't here. |
| Meg Steele 2007-03-20 08:33:24 |
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Ariella - you write so well. 'Spirals of guilt' - not many people would realise that for many of us, guilt can be as strong an emotion as say, pain, sadness or anger, and can just niggle in the background for ever. |
| Anon 2007-03-21 09:47:28 |
3) Why do you think Gilbert says 'Some days you want him to live, some days you don't'? Do you ever feel that way about your sib? Because when nothing ever changes for your sibling, and you can see that they are unhappy, but you know that things can never get better, sometimes you think "Maybe..." If she's dug her own hole in creating the world around her the way it is, and you all were there while she was doing it, but you never noticed that a little step here and a little step there was going to lead her to this life with virtually nothing in it, then sometimes you think "We can't undo any of this, maybe, maybe it would be easier if it didn't have to be this way"... And then some days you aren't thinking about her at all: instead you are thinking about yourself and everything that she will have the ability to take from you, everything that you might want to do, but that you won't be able to do, all because of her, and you think "Maybe, just maybe, it would be easier if things didn't have to be this way". You think of the possibilities and the freedom that would be open to you if you were just you and not you-tied-to-someone-else-always-and-forever, and your mind boggles, because just thinking about it while she's here sitting in the next room over from you sends you into spirals of guilt.... |